Exchanging vows is the most important and special moment in your wedding ceremony. Choosing the perfect vows to express your feelings of love and commitment to your fiancé during your wedding is not always the easiest thing to do. You want to express your deepest feelings, in a way that is easy to say, and that others will understand.  

Let these Wedding Vow Tips help you choose the most important words in your wedding.

WEDDING VOW TIPS

1. Remember that there are no rules about vows.  You can say whatever words you want to each other that represent who you are and your feelings and commitment toward each other.
    

2. If you are getting married in a church and they give you the standard vows, ASK if you can do something different.  After all, this is YOUR wedding!
    

3. You don’t have to both say the same thing.  You can each say something different, and you can even surprise each other with the words.
    

4. Use help: cut and paste from vows you like to create the sentiments that are perfect for you.
    

5. Write your own vows if you feel that you can express yourself that way – personal vows are often the most heartfelt and wonderful vows possible. If you are struggling with the wording – allow someone to help you!  
    

6. Don’t use “thou” when you are a “you” person.  Flowery words are great for some people, but for others they don’t sound real or sincere.
    

7. You don’t have to use your formal name; if you are known best as Jimmy, use it - not Howard James III; unless of course you want to be more formal.  It is completely up to you.
    

8. Don’t make them too long.  About a paragraph is just right, or around 100 words, especially if you are going to “repeat after me”.
    

9. Never try to memorize them! The most common way to say vows is to “repeat after me” with the minister; you can also read them to each other, especially if they are very personal and longer than 100 words.
    

10. Use a mike if you have one, or have the minister hold it to the side.  Your guests want to hear your special words to each other.
     

11. Don’t worry about crying –either the bride or the groom! Tears of joy are what make a wedding special!
     

12. Make sure you get a copy of the ceremony with your vows to keep as a treasure and reminder of the words you said!